Social skills with girls, practice day and night

Practice makes perfect, will all the advice in the world they can only provide you with ideas of how the real world is. You will have to meet the girls and hone your new found skills in the field. Sometimes we really forget the basic and need a little reminder.

Interpersonal skills with women can be improved, through spending more time socializing with people. If you were like me in the past, being an introvert due to personality had caused a great deal of time lagging behind others. Go out as much as possible to catch up and be familiar with all the little things that everyone else been through, a late bloomer is better than never.

For a start, try all ways and different aspect of interaction, with both men and women. Make mistakes and get feedbacks, access the subtle cues, body language and learn. Slowly you will get the hang of it and soon these situations will not longer be awkward. Confidence will follow. Success with women as well.

Your Attitude

Your confidence and attitude are interred related. Positive mindset and staying optimistic is important to build up your inner self. Psychological abstract can be improved from internal and external visualization. Learn to be sincere; people can feel you when you communicate. Appreciate the woman’s beauty not from her chest, but from her heart. I know it is difficult especially if the dress is very low cut. Practise.

Find a Part time job that requires socializing

Following are some ideas to improve on your social skills, at the same time know some girls. I have done all these jobs before and I can assure you the level of interaction with people is high.

• Being a waiter or retail assistant- approaching and helping customers in person, learning to be pleasant and friendly, teasing but funny.
• Night club - Drinking with customers, having fun with them
• Cashier - having to make small talk with lots of people.
• Sales - learning to be personable, assertive, and persuasive, handling nerves and rejection.

Even for some girls, don’t be surprised that the attractive ones are eventually shy and reserved. It is for you to go talk to them and find out. What is the point of guessing and passing your own judgement and remarks when you didn’t even talk to the girl at all?

Going online

This is the first baby step in communication. Talk as much as possible, to your online gaming buddies, girls especially. Please make sure they are really girls. Get their email and add them in Facebook/Friendster to confirm their identity. Take note that you should try to make your online socializing as much like real world socializing as you can.

Do the following as online practice:

• Voice chat while playing a game, especially girls
• Chat with friends and acquaintances through Messenger.
• Chat with girls in a public chat room.
• Points to take note for calibrating your online persona as much to your real life as possible
• Type out complete sentences, not short, clipped ones.
• Make effort to converse, carry weight in your reply. Initiate open ended questions instead of ‘Yes and No’. Bring the conversation forward

Cut down the time to think what to reply. In real life, you don’t have 5 minutes to think. Be natural
Cut down on flashy smileys or funny images. You wouldn’t be using them later in real life.

For messenger, post an actual photo of you let the other person feel who you are. Look at the person’s photo when replying. You will get more comfortable when you meet up with her.

Weekend is only three days away. Have you been talking to women recently?

Online or offline, day or night?

There are always people awake out there 24-7, so it is not an excuse whether it is too early or too late to start socializing.

Have fun and be responsible,
powersofattraction@gmail.com

Online dating: expressing your interest

In this modern IT advance society, even dating can be done at home, online. Facebook, myspace, Friendster etc, are some of the more commonly used social networking sites for meeting new friends, women.

Occasionally, when we do find some interesting ladies online, the tendency to act interesting and get her attention is common. Have you ever though of the number of messages, inbox and notifications received by the ladies are countless? What really makes you think she will read your message or worst, even know you exist? (Of course we are talking about some solid 10/10 babe)

Fret not, infact there are certain pointers we can take note to improve our online dating success. Following are some key features you will need to understand, applicable to both online and offline women, girls.

Number ONE
Never ever do what the other guys are doing

A simple example: Take a look at all the common posts on anyone of the more popular lady’s facebook. How many those kind of ‘Wow, you’re hot’ or ‘You are simply beautiful and you blew my mind’ posts? Results: Not even a thank you for the lady. Why is that so?

Ask yourself this question if you are a girl. Which man will you find more genuine interest or attraction?

Robert tells you he likes you because you are beautiful and hot.

Louis tells you he finds you interesting because you are bubbly, having great energy and share common hobbies

It also applies for guys too.

Susan tells you he likes you because you are handsome and rich.

Joanna tells you he finds you interesting because you are bubbly, having great energy and share common hobbies

In the art of seduction, the powers of attraction are the primary factor to consider and understand first. Women love seduction too, don’t deprive and take away her fun of seducing you too early. Women in general if they win you over too easily, her sub conscious belief will transit her into thinking that you are easily attainable and undesirable.

Once she is in this state too fast in the initial stage, you will no longer be ‘the deal’. Of course you can still get some women without being ‘the deal’ but not the most desirable ones of course.

Number TWO
Test and understand

In the real world, predictable patterns/messages are always found in the inbox of beautiful women. This is life.

If you do not believe, you can always get any of your pretty girlfriends and ask them to set up a ‘false’ account on facebook or Friendster. Watch the overwhelming terrible responses she gets from the first few days. You can start collecting a series of LAME introductions from the men!

You will be very surprise by what you find and please, don’t ever do what those guys are doing!

Remember, success does not happen overnight.

If your life had always been the same and one fine day you expect instant success with women, I will say dream on. My firm belief is once if you do understand what really works, practice and enjoy the results. It is a journey. Most people do not understand this transformation, and this is where you know what you really want out of your social lifestyle.

Three words for the day: Practice, Improve, results

Invest in yourself. Why not?

Have fun, and be responsible

powersofattraction@gmail.com

Dating the girls: Using dark humor

What is the difference between the guys who are great at attracting and approaching girls and the average Joes’ that get the ‘I’m attached’ every time reply?

Three words: Power of attraction

Conveying the image to the girls as attractive, confident and desirable from the very beginning can be modelled from the very best of the best.

Let me share one very important secret on attraction.

Dark humour. A humorous comment or joke without an expression of comedy, as a disqualifier to the girl of interest, ideally for the social group to laugh except the target. You communicate with her as you deliberately tease her, with a sense of confidence and humour.

Humour? You tell yourself you are not funny, well if that’s the case, it really seems funny! Have you ever told a joke to your friends, and to later laugh about it yourself? That’s funny, because the joke is on you. Don't worry, great news because using humour can be taught.

Dark humour is something which you might want to learn more, as part of your story telling capabilities. The ability to throw dark comments and eventually getting the social group to laugh, except you, is a true dating and social art.

Female, girls in generate are more complex and socially more intelligent gender. In order to disarm them, you must use a disqualifier first, dark humour.

Example, you open a group of three ladies, and as you are chatting with the other two members (except the target), throw in a dark humour and let the group ease the tension. Idea is to let the rest of the group think you are funny, but the target thinks you are mean. Then follow by building back her attraction on how special she is, how different she is from the rest of the group and so on.

This social methodology enables the target to crave for your attention and at the same time remain submissive, as she is now focusing on you, complying with you, so that you wouldn’t make fun of her again.

From there, build a social connection and better comfort level with her, at the same time maintain your APLHA MALE status.

Don’t you just love it when these girls become more predictable?

Be responsible, and enjoy your week.

powersofattraction@gmail.com

Getting a date, first fix your presentation

Never judge a book by its cover, however the cover is used to create its first impression. Appearance and image are very important when you are meeting women, as there can only be one first impression whether you like it or not.

How you dress, the way you talk, body language, your worn accessories all plays a part of you and your defined lifestyle.

There no ugly looking people, only lazy ones. Staying conscious of your personal grooming can help yourself create a better impression, ideally to the women. She thinks, ‘Hmm… what does this man do? He looks very impressive, with a great dress sense and well groomed. I hope he ask for my number tonight.”

Don’t think too far ahead before even taking the first step on your presentation. Here are some common sense guidelines that could help you change your outlook, and perhaps when you do meet the ladies, set them thinking.

The Skin
The skin is the largest organ in the body, and is subject to the same laws as all our organs, if it is stressed for long enough, it will fail. Modern life places incredible stress on our bodies, and the skin is the first contacts with air pollution, chemicals in the water and air conditioning.

Cleanse the face and neck. Use an oil-free facial moisturizer with an SPF15 or higher every day to hydrate the skin and protect from sun damage.

Once or twice a week, use a facial scrub to remove dead skin cells and revitalize the skin. This is called exfoliation and it leaves the skin feeling fresh and improves the look of dull skin.

Shave well
Unless you look like Brad Pitt, please put in effort to shave and keep a tidy and clean image.

The Hair
I am sure your current hairstyle is not bringing you anywhere. Choose your hair style that defines your lifestyle and tell your hair dresser about it. Dump your barber with the old razor blade for some a professional stylist. (Female preferred). Invest in an appointment and ask for advice on what styles would suit your face shape. Once you have a really good styled cut, it is much easier to keep your hair looking good.

The clothes
Focus on one color
Matching colors can bring the necessary attention and makes the person look taller, silmmer or leaner. Black and blue are safe colors, however you might want to pepper it with accessories, and depending on the day or night event.

Monochromatic dressing (dressing in one color only) makes anyone look taller, slimmer and leaner. Match the toning closely and avoid contrast. If you are wearing multiple colours keep them close in intensity. For example, dark blue and black or stone and soft white.Use darker colorsDarker colors make you look slimmer than lighter colours. Black and blue for example, are great colours to use for most people.

Wear darker colours at the bottomUse the darker colour at the bottom of your outfit to make you look taller and slimmer.Wear clothes that fit.

Buy clothing that fit; throw away those sloppy T-shirts, cargo pants, faded oversized jeans. Go for tailored and bottoms that fit nicely, projecting a clean and slick look.

Follow these tips closely and I can assure you that your friends will notice and like this new image that you project.

Of course, that look from the ladies will never be the same again.
The attention will be on you and It’s all about you, so what are YOU waiting for?

Dating game: A wingman for getting woman

Once in awhile, we enjoy being in the lime light, getting all the attention and praises. There are also times where you need to switch role and act as the trustworthy Wingman.

In the attraction context, a wingman is defined as the man whom the main ‘pilot’ brings along when he goes to a club or bar as accompany. A wingman is expected to support his buddy in approaching women, entering sets or even open the set. The man often picks a desired woman, who is referred to as the ‘target’. The man intending to seduce the target is often called the ‘pilot’. The wingman is expected to back up the pilot, who typically entails talking to the target's less attractive friend(s) and making comments that will make the pilot seem more attractive. A wingman can also be a female company.

Motivation is important as the wingman constantly reminds the pilot’s social skill and emphasizing on taking action. He can start the openings on groups and pairs. He will automatically take on the less attractive woman so that the pilot can dive for the target, without interruption. He also removes the awkwardness of the pilot if he is alone.

In certain situations, the pilot will go with best wing with the most experience in playing the role of wingman, or so called his TOPGUN. Job scope includes taking notes, analysis of terrain, and most importantly reviewing the pilot’s intoxicated judgment. Trust me, this is IMPORTANT. (You don’t want to regret going into a terrible target)

A good wingman's generosity should hold no bounds, and he will do whatever is necessary to make sure his pilot avoids enemy interference and hits the target. A wingman should be prepared for self-sacrifice.


It's important that your wingman levelled the pilot. He shouldn't be much better looking, fashionable or charming than you, else the role will be accidentally switched. Likewise, you can't be far better looking, fashionable or charming either. The goal is to field a team of two equals, with a high level of tacit understanding.


Go out and recruit the right guy for the field. Maybe you already have, just that you might need to align the level of skill set equally, and it takes time to build this relationship. Remember this as the pilot, in every relationship, there must be a healthy level of give and take, return the favour. It enhances the partnership.

Your net worth is determined by your network of people (I prefer more females). Where have you and your buddy wingman been networking this weekend?

If not, do it tonight, the ladies are waiting.