Wednesday, May 27, 2009

Social skills with girls, practice day and night

Practice makes perfect, will all the advice in the world they can only provide you with ideas of how the real world is. You will have to meet the girls and hone your new found skills in the field. Sometimes we really forget the basic and need a little reminder.

Interpersonal skills with women can be improved, through spending more time socializing with people. If you were like me in the past, being an introvert due to personality had caused a great deal of time lagging behind others. Go out as much as possible to catch up and be familiar with all the little things that everyone else been through, a late bloomer is better than never.

For a start, try all ways and different aspect of interaction, with both men and women. Make mistakes and get feedbacks, access the subtle cues, body language and learn. Slowly you will get the hang of it and soon these situations will not longer be awkward. Confidence will follow. Success with women as well.

Your Attitude

Your confidence and attitude are interred related. Positive mindset and staying optimistic is important to build up your inner self. Psychological abstract can be improved from internal and external visualization. Learn to be sincere; people can feel you when you communicate. Appreciate the woman’s beauty not from her chest, but from her heart. I know it is difficult especially if the dress is very low cut. Practise.

Find a Part time job that requires socializing

Following are some ideas to improve on your social skills, at the same time know some girls. I have done all these jobs before and I can assure you the level of interaction with people is high.

  • Being a waiter or retail assistant- approaching and helping customers in person, learning to be pleasant and friendly, teasing but funny.
  • Night club - Drinking with customers, having fun with them
  • Cashier - having to make small talk with lots of people.
  • Sales - learning to be personable, assertive, and persuasive, handling nerves and rejection.

Even for some girls, don’t be surprised that the attractive ones are eventually shy and reserved. It is for you to go talk to them and find out. What is the point of guessing and passing your own judgement and remarks when you didn’t even talk to the girl at all?

Going online

This is the first baby step in communication. Talk as much as possible, to your online gaming buddies, girls especially. Please make sure they are really girls. Get their email and add them in Facebook/Friendster to confirm their identity. Take note that you should try to make your online socializing as much like real world socializing as you can.

Do the following as online practice:

  • Voice chat while playing a game, especially girls
  • Chat with friends and acquaintances through Messenger.
  • Chat with girls in a public chat room.
  • Points to take note for calibrating your online persona as much to your real life as possible
  • Type out complete sentences, not short, clipped ones.
  • Make effort to converse, carry weight in your reply. Initiate open ended questions instead of ‘Yes and No’. Bring the conversation forward

Cut down the time to think what to reply. In real life, you don’t have 5 minutes to think. Be natural
Cut down on flashy smileys or funny images. You wouldn’t be using them later in real life.

For messenger, post an actual photo of you let the other person feel who you are. Look at the person’s photo when replying. You will get more comfortable when you meet up with her.

Weekend is only three days away. Have you been talking to women recently?

Online or offline, day or night?

There are always people awake out there 24-7, so it is not an excuse whether it is too early or too late to start socializing.

Have fun and be responsible,
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