Dating game: A wingman for getting woman

Once in awhile, we enjoy being in the lime light, getting all the attention and praises. There are also times where you need to switch role and act as the trustworthy Wingman.

In the attraction context, a wingman is defined as the man whom the main ‘pilot’ brings along when he goes to a club or bar as accompany. A wingman is expected to support his buddy in approaching women, entering sets or even open the set. The man often picks a desired woman, who is referred to as the ‘target’. The man intending to seduce the target is often called the ‘pilot’. The wingman is expected to back up the pilot, who typically entails talking to the target's less attractive friend(s) and making comments that will make the pilot seem more attractive. A wingman can also be a female company.

Motivation is important as the wingman constantly reminds the pilot’s social skill and emphasizing on taking action. He can start the openings on groups and pairs. He will automatically take on the less attractive woman so that the pilot can dive for the target, without interruption. He also removes the awkwardness of the pilot if he is alone.

In certain situations, the pilot will go with best wing with the most experience in playing the role of wingman, or so called his TOPGUN. Job scope includes taking notes, analysis of terrain, and most importantly reviewing the pilot’s intoxicated judgment. Trust me, this is IMPORTANT. (You don’t want to regret going into a terrible target)

A good wingman's generosity should hold no bounds, and he will do whatever is necessary to make sure his pilot avoids enemy interference and hits the target. A wingman should be prepared for self-sacrifice.


It's important that your wingman levelled the pilot. He shouldn't be much better looking, fashionable or charming than you, else the role will be accidentally switched. Likewise, you can't be far better looking, fashionable or charming either. The goal is to field a team of two equals, with a high level of tacit understanding.


Go out and recruit the right guy for the field. Maybe you already have, just that you might need to align the level of skill set equally, and it takes time to build this relationship. Remember this as the pilot, in every relationship, there must be a healthy level of give and take, return the favour. It enhances the partnership.

Your net worth is determined by your network of people (I prefer more females). Where have you and your buddy wingman been networking this weekend?

If not, do it tonight, the ladies are waiting.