Top 3 mistakes guys make

Number I
Not “Getting” How Attraction Works For Women

Women are very different from men when it comes to ATTRACTION. You need to accept this fact, and deal with it. When a man sees a beautiful young woman, he feels a sexual attraction immediately.But does the same apply for women?

Do women feel sexual attraction to men based mostly on looks? Or is something else going on?Well, after studying this topic for many years now, I can tell you that women usually have their "attraction mechanisms" triggered by things OTHER than looks.

Have you ever noticed that you see a lot more average and unattractive men with beautiful women than the other way around?

Go figure.

Women are more attracted to certain qualities in men... and they're attracted to the way a man makes them FEEL than they are to looks alone.

Think about this. If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that you feel when you see this pretty young woman.

But it's not an accident. You can learn how to enhance on this area.

Number II

I just wana be ‘NICE’

Have you ever noticed that the really hot, interesting women never seem to be attracted "nice" guys? Or perhaps just let them be a close ‘guy friend’? Of course you have.

Just like me, I'm sure you've had attractive female friends that always seemed to date "jerks"... but for some reason they were never romantically interested in you.

What’s seems wrong? It's actually very simple...Women don't base their choices of men on how "nice" a guy is. They choose the men they do because they feel a powerful Gut feeling/attraction for them.

And guess what? Being nice doesn't make a woman feel that attraction, cause you are just 'one of them'.

And being NICE doesn't make a woman feel attracted to you. (or label you as just a friend)I realize that this doesn't make a lot of logical sense, and it's hard to accept, but please wake up.
Unless you accept the fact that this is reality and wants to act on it, otherwise you will be having the same success with women. (or the lack of it)


Number III
Convincing her she should like you

This one is my favourite.

What do most guys do when they meet a woman that they REALLY like... but she's just not interested? Right! They try to "convince" the woman to feel differently.

Well, I guess attraction is something that you can’t convince or psycho a woman to feel so.
Unless you know mind powers or you have special skills in this aspect, else NEVER. You cannot CONVINCE a woman to feel differently about you by using "logic and reasoning".

Think about it.

If a woman doesn't "feel it" for you, how in the world do you expect to change that FEELING by being "reasonable" with her? Most guys do that.

When a woman just isn't interested, we beg, plead, chase, and do our best to change her mind.
If it really works, I guess it wouldn’t be for long either, until the sympathy votes runs out.

Please share with me if you do know anyone whom made any of the mentioned mistakes and are NOW very SUCCESSFUL with women. You just can’t defy nature. Hope your weekend was good!

Using a buddy as ‘wingman’

How many women can you handle at one time? I guess this is where a 'wingman/buddy' comes in handly.

Let’s say you are going out with this buddy and you want to get to know some women for the evening, make sure he's ALOT better than you at meeting women. Pay attention, let him lead, and learn from the situations you get into. It has to be a mutual thing, so let him know first.

If you don't have any friends that are good with women, FIND SOME. Make some friends that are really good with women, and watch closely as they communicate with women. You'll learn a lot more than just reading books and conversations. When I say really good, I mean you know that he is a natural, not just a façade. (some guys gets alot of women attention, but none of them are actually attracted to him, you must see the difference)

It's also a good idea to use a wingman if you need the "moral support" of a friend to get yourself started meeting women. But make sure that your friend can handle himself when talking to women. If he can't, he's probably going to make things worse and scare women away from you. Trust me, it really makes a difference.

What I'm trying to say is that using a "wingman" is great if it works for you. Try it.So in the end, the woman still never asks my name, is it a sign that she's not interested?

First, I'll say that if a woman doesn't ask your name, it MIGHT mean that she's not interested.But the thing that concerns me about your question is that you're really looking in the wrong direction for clues to decide if a woman "likes you".

Whether the woman likes you or not, it doesn’t really matters!!!!!!!!!!

The only thing that matters is whether or not she feels that powerful, magical, all-important emotion called Attraction!I've had women who were annoyed by me, bothered by me, and basically upset at me still feeling attraction for me because I did the right things.

I've had a woman who started out fighting with me feeling so attracted to me that when I threaten to leave, she pulled me back again!

My point is that you need to get over caring what a woman thinks about you and start doing the right things. If this doesn't make sense to you, then maybe you should continue to stay at my blog for more postings or talk to a pro on this.

Enjoy your weekend ‘fruitfully’.

Don’t fall into the ‘just be friends’ zone

There are no sure win formulas and hard rules to attract girls.

So if you don't understand one method you can always use other ways, so long as you do a few of these few things right, you are well on your way to empowering attraction.

All of them have a common theme or work towards a few key objectives. So don't worry if all the information you are reading online seems conflicting and difficult to digest.

Firstly, letting her know you are interested in her more than being "just friends" is very important.

I hear a lot of guys thinking that they will be able to move out from the ‘just be friends zone’ and advance to ‘more than friends’ category.

So they think that all they need to do is get close to her as ‘just a friend’ then later on they can escalate the interaction into a romantic level.

Well, unfortunately, this is not always the case! Why? Because the ‘friends zone’ somehow an irreversible state. Once you're ‘just a friend’ there's really no confirmation that you are able to get out.

The reason for this is because she does not class you as a potential sexual partner from the get go. So if you want to change this precedent from the start, it's next to impossible. That's why it's so much easier if you just let her know that you are not interested in being ‘just friends’.

You can be that ‘special friend’ who she considers as "just a friend... for now" because later on you are able to move into the ‘intimate friend zone’.

Being a man - How does one be a man? Well firstly, you need to realize that she's the woman of the relationship. So she has a right to be fussy and bitchy about what a bad day she has had. You on the other hand are not.

You are a man so act like it.

Don't be too bothered about trivial things in your life. Don't let negative feelings and emotions get in the way of your interaction with her. Be that funny cheerful guy who has no problems in the world. You know why? Because the problems you have you deal with it and solve it like a man! Do not discuss things about areas in your life that are not satisfying you. Leave that for your boys. Be a man and act like one!

This is a key to remember, if you want to know how to attract women properly. Woman don’t need another woman to bitch about.

Using romance to attract a woman

This will be an interesting topic. I think that most guys use romance in completely the wrong way, and in the process screw up their chances with the woman that they are interested in.
I'm going to take some time here to talk about my personal perspective on romance, how it is misused, and how to use it to really make a woman feel attracted to you.Most guys make one of two main mistakes when trying to be "romantic":

Using romance to create attraction

Abusive use of romance, killing its purpose

What does romance mean to you?

I'm serious. Think about it for a minute.Gifts, flowers and fancy dinners?Candles and soft music?To me, romance is about showing a softer side of yourself... a more thoughtful side... in a way that is meant to amplify the woman's attraction for you.Like I just mentioned, most guys either try to use romance to CREATE attraction, or they do too many things in an attempt to "be romantic", and the effect is lost.

What do you think of these two scenarios?

Case study: Robert

Robert brought her red roses every time he saw her.Brought her one flower the fourth time he saw her, but it was her favorite flower, in her favorite color.

Case study: Roy
Took her to a fancy dinner every time he dated her.Didn't take her to dinner, but one night cooked her a favorite dish saying that it’s his mum recipe and told her the story of how it came to be a family favorite?

Do you see a difference between Robert and Roy?

"Romance" is all about the context of the situation. In other words, little things that are thoughtful, used once in awhile will make far more of an impact than trying to do everything you possibly can all the time.I think that it's important to create this kind of situation as much as humanly possible.Now, here's where romance fits into the puzzle... If you're doing things that you consider to be "romantic" all the time, then she has nothing to wonder about... nothing to think about... there is no challenge or mystery at all.On the other hand, if you use romance more carefully and keep her on the edge of her seat, so to speak, then a small romantic gesture will cause her to feel great feelings of attraction inside... and cause her to work even harder to get and keep your attention, why? Because she will be trying harder to get more romantic moments out of you and it becomes her qualifying you! And you will give it to her when she least expects it!

So what are some things you can do, that women see as romantic, without going overboard?Well, if you want to do the typical things like flowers, gifts, music, poetry, etc. then do as I said earlier: Use them VERY infrequently. Tease her lots, then out of nowhere do something thoughtful. But make sure to stay cool when the emotional reaction comes!She's probably going to be very happy and want to know "where that came from." Just tell her that you were thinking about her and move on to the next topic. Don't get all mushy yet!By the way, if you've gone out with a woman 31 times, and you don't know if she likes you, and you're now thinking, "Oh, hey... great idea! I'll buy her a flower and she'll feel attracted to me..." then get a new idea.Romance isn't a way to make a woman feel attracted to you.Romance is a way to AMPLIFY attraction that is already happening.

Don’t force attraction in a woman using such romance!

Attraction is created by factors other than gifts, dinners, flowers, etc.If she's not feeling attracted to you, then showing her that you're attracted to her probably isn't going to change it... in fact, it may just push her away.I know, I know... you once heard about a guy who pursued a woman for 9 years until she finally gave in and married him. Well, that might work, but I don't have 9 years (unless it's Fiona Xie... yeah, I know she's like don’t know how old already that time, but I guess she's will still be hot!!).Use romance as the spice, and not the main dish.

Use it to amplify, not as your main strategy.

Romance combined with the Right techniques will be ULTIMATE.

Singaporean men neglecting sexual health due to recession

Source: CNA

SINGAPORE: Health is wealth, but with the weakening economy, many Singaporean men are more worried about their finances than sexual health.

In the last six months, doctors said they have seen a drop of up to 50 per cent in the number of patients seeking help for sexual problems like erectile dysfunction. Urologists said maintaining good sexual health is essential for overall well—being, especially for men aged 40 and above.

Professor Peter Lim, senior consultant urologist, Gleneagles Hospital, said: "Obesity, pre—diabetes, high blood pressure and high cholesterol are all linked with erectile dysfunction. They’re all linked with metabolic syndrome which causes failing health and lower longevity in a male."

Studies have shown that one out of every five Singaporean men, will experience testosterone deficiency — a common sexual health problem.

A new campaign has been launched to educate men about the dangers of sexual health problems and to encourage them to take a hands—on approach.

Doctors said male patients can get a little sensitive when it comes to discussing problems about their sexual health, so this campaign hopes to encourage an open dialogue by using hand signals.
The year—long campaign includes health screenings and public education seminars. Men can also sign up for a free andropause test at participating clinics - CNA

It is always about maintaining a work life balance. Instead of worrying about your bills, your monthly car installments, etc, shouldn't you be taking this period to go out for some fun?

If you are not suffering or affected from the recession, what could you have been doing?

Are you having a good time building the attraction with the ladies out there?

Or are you not?

Getting a woman's number in 60 seconds

Image you and your friends walk into a club. You see this lady across the table. What will you do?

You try to get her attention by looking at her direction. If possible (and lucky), she will take a glance in your direction, so perhaps you can return a smile, also at the same time giving her the "Hey beautiful I can't wait to bed you" kinda look.

30 seconds gone by, you are still with your friends, waiting to get another confirmation look from her before you have enough drinks to even make the first approach.

She never did. (Even if she did, you might want to get a 3rd confirmation from her, and so on and on…)

Another 20 seconds passed, nothing happened. You ordered another drink with your friends. Another look at her, she's already with another guy. You thought to yourself "Oh well, luckily I didn’t make that first move to go over and talk to her, because her boyfriend is here". That guy is NOT HER BOYFRIEND, you knew that.

An hour passed, a night well spent with your group of buddies, happily binge drinking away.

Let's rewrite the opening like an RPG scenario. We are now in control of a character we call him "Roy". Roy is an open, easy going and has a sociable personality, because we wanted him to be.
We customized him remembered?

Image Roy walks into the same club, saw this lady across the table. Within the next 4 seconds, he walks towards the lady, approach her from the side and “Hey, I need borrow your phone to make an important call.”

Unknowingly, she lends Roy the mobile phone and Roy replies “Hey, I’m kidding with you. This is not the way I will like to get your phone”. She smiles, ice is broken. She asks your name, you intro yourself to her friends as well, you win the set.

Let her know you got to go and rejoin your friends for now, so since the phone on your hand, ask her officially for her number. You key in your mobile number on her phone… 9788 …..

60 seconds. Closed.

You did forget that we are playing as “ Roy ” right? But in real life, things will not be as smooth or easy.

But what if the mentioned scenario did happen in real life? What if “ Roy ” really exist? What If you can “customized” yourself and be the man that you always wanted to be?

Being good looking is everything, but not everytime

You probably heard this many times from women. ‘Looks doesn’t really matters to me, it’s the way he connects with me’ or so called ‘He just have this special chemistry that makes me want to find out more from him’.

Bullsh*t. Looks is everything to begin with. Or at least what I call ‘The Presentation’.

“Actions create emotions, emotions create actions.”

If you deem yourself as average looking, you are at an advantage. If you refer to the previous written article, “Reality is not permanent” you will understand this can be changed.

A hot and pretty sexy goddess will no doubt be everyman’s dream… and nightmare too. Just imagine the number of men making advances at her. So what makes you different for her to be attracted to? Looks? I don’t think so…. (As there are much much better looking guys out there who tried but failed..)

Surveys have shown that 10% of the men get 90% of the attractive women all the time? What makes these 10% of the population so different?

It is the rule of the epidemic, as written in the book by Malcolm Gladwell “The Tipping Point”. The attractive will continue to attract and spread it’s influence.

What do these men have in common?

2 in 3 Singapore men find sex just 'so so'

This article was first published in Mind Your Body, The Straits Times.
I found it interesting and will like to share it for open discussion.

Just one in three men in Singapore have great sex, while the rest find it passable or even lousy, going by a recent survey.

The online survey involved 224 men and women here. It was part of one commissioned regionally by Viagra manufacturer Pfizer.

Men rated their erection on a scale of 1 (severe dysfunction) to 4 (optimal function), based on descriptions corresponding to each number. Women rated their partners.

Of the men, 54 per cent rated themselves optimal (4 on the scale), while 48 per cent of the women gave their partners this rating.

Among men who said they were highly satisfied with sex, more than half rated themselves optimal. One in five rated themselves sub-optimal (3 on the scale).

The men who rated themselves sub-optimal had less sex and were less satisfied with sex and other aspects of life such as love, family life and health, compared to men whose erections were optimal.

The sub-optimal men had sex four times a month on average, about half as often as those rated optimal.

Up to 29 per cent of those who were dissatisfied with sex were very satisfied with life overall, compared with up to 52 per cent of those highly satisfied with sex.

The findings were similar for women who found their partners' erections less than optimal.
The Singapore results mirrored those of the regional survey, which polled 3,957 sexually active people aged 25 to 74 from 13 Asia-Pacific countries. The poll was conducted between May and July last year.

At a press conference here on Feb 19, the survey's consultant, Dr Rosie King, an Australian sexual health physician, said: 'People don't always make the connection between sexual health and other problems.

'Successful treatment of sexual problems translates into significant improvement in satisfaction with sex and overall well-being.'



How many of men out there do openly talk about their sexual lifes (or the lack of it)?

Where can men openly find a community that they can learn everything about women?

To learn from both from men and women?

Reality is not Permanent

Sometimes we have bad hair days, or days when we just look into the mirror and felt this is not right.
Women respond more strongly to how a man presents himself, how he is dressed, and how he makes her feel. This is great news for us, guys.
This means you can change how good looking you are, at least to them.
How you dress and how you carry yourself makes all the difference.
If you're overweight, lose weight.
If you're clothes are mismatched, get a new style.
If your hair is unkempt, invest in an expensive haircut.
Be open for options!
But you must take action! Take care of yourself and the world will respond to you in ways you never thought possible. So now, get out of your seat and make the first step.