Using romance to attract a woman

This will be an interesting topic. I think that most guys use romance in completely the wrong way, and in the process screw up their chances with the woman that they are interested in.
I'm going to take some time here to talk about my personal perspective on romance, how it is misused, and how to use it to really make a woman feel attracted to you.Most guys make one of two main mistakes when trying to be "romantic":

Using romance to create attraction

Abusive use of romance, killing its purpose

What does romance mean to you?

I'm serious. Think about it for a minute.Gifts, flowers and fancy dinners?Candles and soft music?To me, romance is about showing a softer side of yourself... a more thoughtful side... in a way that is meant to amplify the woman's attraction for you.Like I just mentioned, most guys either try to use romance to CREATE attraction, or they do too many things in an attempt to "be romantic", and the effect is lost.

What do you think of these two scenarios?

Case study: Robert

Robert brought her red roses every time he saw her.Brought her one flower the fourth time he saw her, but it was her favorite flower, in her favorite color.

Case study: Roy
Took her to a fancy dinner every time he dated her.Didn't take her to dinner, but one night cooked her a favorite dish saying that it’s his mum recipe and told her the story of how it came to be a family favorite?

Do you see a difference between Robert and Roy?

"Romance" is all about the context of the situation. In other words, little things that are thoughtful, used once in awhile will make far more of an impact than trying to do everything you possibly can all the time.I think that it's important to create this kind of situation as much as humanly possible.Now, here's where romance fits into the puzzle... If you're doing things that you consider to be "romantic" all the time, then she has nothing to wonder about... nothing to think about... there is no challenge or mystery at all.On the other hand, if you use romance more carefully and keep her on the edge of her seat, so to speak, then a small romantic gesture will cause her to feel great feelings of attraction inside... and cause her to work even harder to get and keep your attention, why? Because she will be trying harder to get more romantic moments out of you and it becomes her qualifying you! And you will give it to her when she least expects it!

So what are some things you can do, that women see as romantic, without going overboard?Well, if you want to do the typical things like flowers, gifts, music, poetry, etc. then do as I said earlier: Use them VERY infrequently. Tease her lots, then out of nowhere do something thoughtful. But make sure to stay cool when the emotional reaction comes!She's probably going to be very happy and want to know "where that came from." Just tell her that you were thinking about her and move on to the next topic. Don't get all mushy yet!By the way, if you've gone out with a woman 31 times, and you don't know if she likes you, and you're now thinking, "Oh, hey... great idea! I'll buy her a flower and she'll feel attracted to me..." then get a new idea.Romance isn't a way to make a woman feel attracted to you.Romance is a way to AMPLIFY attraction that is already happening.

Don’t force attraction in a woman using such romance!

Attraction is created by factors other than gifts, dinners, flowers, etc.If she's not feeling attracted to you, then showing her that you're attracted to her probably isn't going to change it... in fact, it may just push her away.I know, I know... you once heard about a guy who pursued a woman for 9 years until she finally gave in and married him. Well, that might work, but I don't have 9 years (unless it's Fiona Xie... yeah, I know she's like don’t know how old already that time, but I guess she's will still be hot!!).Use romance as the spice, and not the main dish.

Use it to amplify, not as your main strategy.

Romance combined with the Right techniques will be ULTIMATE.