Every growing men must go through this - But not alone

Demographics have shown that 30% of Singaporean men
remain single after the age of 40
Spending most of their time with aging parents,
​or eating dinner alone in their 600sf home.
I could have been one of them
At first, I was ashamed to share with you my story
Hey, why not because I was just like any of you

Paul Teo growing up

Born Singaporean into a typical Singapore family,
Grew up in a 2 bedroom hdb in Haig road with my extended family of 10

being taught to not talk to strangers
And be careful when speaking to girls

Where I grew up, Haig Road

I used to face the same problem with woman as much as you do

Have you Ever walked past someone that you like and didn't have the courage to talk to her?

I did.
Countless times.

Before I discover the beautiful psychology of attraction
There were numerous opportunities, people, women whom I could have initiated and become
More than friends.

In my earlier years, I would see this attractive beautiful woman from afar
And watch how happy she is with someone else

All dressed up ready to go clubbing

Years back, There was this unforgettable time at a club, I remembered it was at zouk
First time going to a large branded club
Totally excited about going out to meet new people with a few of my poly mates

You guessed what happened the whole night when I was there?
So many beautiful people all around but I just didn't know what to do

So I ended up sitting in a corner with another single guy friend talking about women and guys stuffs instead of
Talking to women!

Yes the whole night.
10pm to 2.45am closing

Watching how other couples and friends happily enjoying themselves and having fun was always my envy

Who does not want to be in a great company of friends and having our girlfriend with us?

Instead of embracing the wonderful spirit of female companionships, good buddiesAll the time I ended up jealous and envy why some guys seems to have better luck with women

I started to hate men who are good with women
I started to detest women who only like fun guys

And this happen for a long time, living in jealousy, anger and of course the unbearable feeling of being left out and lonely

Can you imagine
My buddies around me started to get attached
The women whom I met only treat me as only a friend (yes ALL of them)
Just wanting to be able to put a smile to a woman who I just met (a smile of interest, but not those kinda 'I'm just being polite type')
Having unbearable feeling of how it really feels to just be loved and can love another woman?

Numerous nights I have doubts about myself
For years and years

I ask:
Am I fated to be the last single friend in my community of friends or family?

Yes, I do have a few 'puppy relationships' every now and then
But they were the ones who pitied me and gave me a chance

Should not I have the equal chance like any other men
To be with someone whom I like and she like me as well

I'm Wondering why the people I'm are attracted to are not attracted to me
And just happen to be 'lucky' to be with ones who I didn't really feel for

I tried. Didn't turn out well.

Believe my experience as I openly share this
No men feels good being in a pitied relationship

And it's affecting me a lot.
Im losing my ability to focus and the sense of insecurity creeps in stronger everyday

At one season,
I tried to isolate myself from the world
By playing video games like final fantasy and many time consuming role playing games that will allow me to be a hero in the game

Keep doing the same thing by leveling up

Playing video games takes away my zero in life to become the hero in fantasy
But it didn't took me long to realized everytime I competed a game,

I felt totally lost about what's next

Then I realized,
It will repeat for every new video game
Nothing's Gona change unless I do something about it

Explore Something different

It's not about the girls around me
It's about me

My desire to get a girlfriend who I really like was still there and I refused to believe I'm fated to be single forever

I prayed
I asked
and God sent me the answer after many years again

attracting women becomes so naturally easy

I discovered the key to unlocking
Psychology of attracting women and with this gift

The rest is history. 

So what is your story? 

Whatever your story will be, we want and will be part of your growth

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Succeeding with woman together as a community

 

No man is an island.

 

There can be no true individual success as this success only display unwillingness to share and help.

 

A person who is inward is a failure.

 

Individual success, no matter how great, can never be greater than group success.

Individual success compared to group success, is very easy, because you only need to care for yourself.

 

Having individual success is not difficult, almost like a joke. One can have all the successes he strived for up to a point… what’s the difference for another one. Eventually, the feeling of emptiness will creep in again, like what happened to me, at a more terrifying quantity as the success he strived so hard and spent so much time for is not what he wanted.

Anthony Robbins (World renowned life coach): But how do we make sure that we enjoy a life of happiness and satisfaction when a man does not really need much for himself?

 

To answer this question, we have to understand a quality of a human, makes me proud and should make you proud too. ‘Man we will do more for others, than they will ever do for themselves.’

 

Enjoy helping. Easier said than done.

 

Also, having people around who acknowledge you contributions, especially when there are female companions around, shows that you are a social proof person. This is a very big turn-on for women as they know that there is a man whom other men respect, something the individual high-flyer will not have.

 

So many stories of how our friends have contributed to our success. I am really grateful for what Mr S did for me towards the end of the Dec field trip. He is more to me. If he did not help me open up the gorgeous Korean women, if he is not sensitive enough to move back when the women was more interested in me, I wouldn’t have a great time with them and close her email.

 

Although I don’t if I am able to get her in the end, what really matter most is the self-esteem you gave me. Thank you Mr S, you really made a difference.

 

Powers of social proof

 

Your friend matters more than a new girl who you just met.

 

Man to man talk about friendship loyalty (意气). Women to man talk about feel and seldom talk about love (which cannot come before feel). Feel can change (obvious) and I didn’t say loyalty cannot.

 

But at least, loyalty and friendship cannot change overnight as it has been build so dearly by our blood and sweat (perhaps tears lolx), something that is worth spending a lifetime cherishing.

Having said that, to be honest, I really don’t deserve any credit for this article as a person who don’t practice what he preach is a liar.

 

Up till now, I am still not a very good team player. At many times, I will just slip back inwards to the selfish me. Please be patient to guide me back to the spirit of brotherhood. I promise to listen.

Let this spirit always be the one that helps the Brotherhood stay together.

 

I look forward to day where all of us, brothers, sit together at a restaurant beside the evening Hawaiian beach, enjoying the sea breeze with our woman and wine.

 

Thank you Brotherhood.

 

Your sensitive, attractive man,

 

Stewey

 

Graduate, Married

 

Truth revealed about why being small is attractive

Building charisma doesn't work by taking  a one -time pill

Nor by attending a weekend bootcamp.

it's a lifestyle. An attitude. With people.

Men and women.

And how can you optimize your learning experience sitting in a large classroom filled with so many people?

It's the same for building relationship with woman. Imagine being at the F1 event where there are countless of attractive women around, but none that you can built a personal moment with.

In our class, we emphasise on exclusivity.

Teaching you how to build that special one on one moment under any scenario.

We demonstrate this. We are good that this because we believe. Even our class is compact and closely knitted.

It's like personal coaching system on each of you.

Men in smaller classes perform better in much more areas compared to peers from large seminars. Class size between 5 to 10 promotes consistency and long term sustainable results, and isn't that what often missing in large training seminars?

"Smaller class size enhances learning", "for a basic common sense reason"

It helps our coaches in getting to know you better. Everyone individually is treated with exclusivity and 100% attention. You are not just someone in our class. 

You could be our next leading coach, who knows?

We treat you with utmost respect because being respectful is the ultimate attraction

In fact, a smaller class should mean additional cost, but our community is here not for the money, it's all about having this platform for men like you and me to grow together. 

Wingmen for hired? Never an issue because every graduate is treated equally in our brotherhood. Everyone is like family. Brothers. 

Never shy to share or be completely open.

We value success, your success. Community success.

After all, nobody blows their own birthday cake alone.

Be captivated by the lifestyle that every men desires, with your woman, with your friends.

Long term success. With a healthy community.

Our coach will be assigned 1 to 1, including our Charisma mentor coming down to walk the ground with you. Yes, powers of personable. We walk our talk. 

Come our house and drink beer with anyone of us

To impact this art of making people feel personable and special, we make you feel the same.

Don't spend any more unnecessary money any more until you meet us. 

Let our powers of sincerity charm you to our dating classes.

See ya buddy

Your faithful charisma mentor

Paul Teo

Simple girl getting formula

Dear friends,

Here is the world's simplest formula for getting a girlfriend

Attract + Connect

Suppose you have already attracted the gal, so let's get into building connection

First, comfort must be established.

How does comfort helps in getting a gal..

1.she will let her guards down
2.she's more willing to let u invade into more private parts of her life, in turn allowing you to find out more about her and work on it.
3.If a gal feels comfortable with you, she will be more than happy to come out with you for a second date.

How to build comfort and connection?

1.Establish common grabpoint eg talk bout women's common topic, fashion, accessories etc

2.Use a more relaxed and slower tone to talk to women, it will makes the women feels more relax and at the same time it will hide your nervousness and anxiety if there is any

3.Be genuinely interested in the women's topic, prompt her to continue on her conversation using conversation enhancer like carry on, tell me more etc. and let her know you find her interesting.

4.Display abit of vulnerability at times, for instance tell her bout some embarrassing things which happens to you in the past or when you are asking her about some topics like handbags. Play noob, this will enable her to speak more and lighten up the tense feeling which she might have while talking to you for the first time

Additionally, get her to feel closer to you by sharing some secrets of yours to her while she is telling you her hobby.

For instance when she says she likes movie. you can tell her, looks can be deceiving, although I look really aloof and cold hearted, but there's another sentimental side of me which you dunno.

My favorite movie of all time is Titanic and I remember crying so badly when I watch it for the first time. Until now, I still find it embarrassing. Imagine a big boy crying at home watching DVD.

Lucky I never watch it in the cinema. That will be so embarrassing lolz. Anyway, this is a secret between the two of us and no third person should know about this. Additionally you can throw in a lame joke by saying, I know who to kill if anybody else were to know about this.

Things to watch out for

1.Excessive comfort, and you will end up in the friend zone or become her "sister" as she starts pouring out her woe to you. You won't want to end up in the situation whereby she turns to you whenever she has emotional needs, but to other jerks for sexual needs.

2.It's good to be funny, but some topics although funny to man will be offending to woman. Avoid jokes on politics, race, religion


So gentlemen,

Let's keep life simple.

Meet the woman, attract and connect.

There you have a wonderful date.


Build comfort and connect, because it's
YOUR window to intimacy

SS and Paul Teo
Graduate

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Seasons of attraction

Having being able to attract anyone anytime is a skill that comes with responsibility. our level of responsibility comes along with season, as we constantly grow and learn about it, from ourselves, from role models, from God. 

Our role in life is to inspire, influence and impart. To others, to our children, juniors, subordinates, community you name it. We may not be conscious every moment but we are influencing.

The energy that we carry from our believes, values live with us and within us. Strangely, little animals (pet dogs especially) can feel it, children feel it. Women can pick it up. Easily. it's just like confidence. You cannot fake it. Eventually people who know you long enough will realize that you are either a sincere friend or a very good actor. 

We are talking about long lasting congruence and confidence. And how do we begin to develop from nothing? We don't. We all have it from the start but choose to believe we lost it along in life. 

People changes through relationships. Friendship, families, romantic relationships. When you love and treasure a relationship, a part of you is invested into him/her and you both become one. Even in friendships. Every time a relationship fails, she takes away a part of you and you take away a part of him. 

You go through cycles of emotions, you evolve and grow. An inter-personal experience that is purely exclusive and personal. Experiential leaning.

Nobody can even teach that, and our creator made us this way to feel the way we should. 

Feelings and how we choose to be responsible to our actions during emotions. We have seasons for everything. 

A man in his teens may feel as much as a man in his late four ties should that be a loss in a relationship, break up, death or failed marriage/relationship. The recovery is very much dependent on his responsibility to his community, career and family who needs and want him to pick up fast. 

Having said, we all need time to go through the richness of emotions.

There can't be joy without sorrow

Happiness without being sad

Feeling abundance with falling desperate

Accomplishment without failing

Courage developed fully from fear 

Having clarity of purpose in life, needing to first go through seasons where everything seems lost and doubtful. 

And if you are feeling and experiencing either, please give yourself the gift of going through 100% and take all the time you need to recover. There is a reason for what we need to go through to develop roots for the better

There will always be the sunshine after every rain. 

How do you enjoy the rain while you hide indoor or carefully stride with an umbrella? 

Drench yourself in the bad weather, for soon you will have to keep your umbrellas, because the sun will soon rise again

Faithfully yours, 

Signing of as your Attraction Coach

Paul Teo

Exciting programs await at
http://www.powersofpassion.com/

Attraction is showing appreciation

 

To my beautiful wife,

 

Before u wake up, or should I say before u even sleep, Perry is crying and when u feed his hunger, Desiree starts crying. One thing I learn in engineering school which is wrong, 2+2+2+2 is not equal 8 hours of sleep.

Sleeping late is one thing, giving up time and passion is which extraordinary women will give.. easily said then done which u exceed. Which women is willing to give up her attraction, time and pursue of love but to give only one sided love to her children who they cant even pronounce I love you?

You did.

A husband coming home, to go to his home office and focus back on work is not new to u, but the least he can give is not how's the kids are doing or why the home is not clean.. but just a simple I Love You, which I believe I did not give enough.

Yes I need a break, but who spares a though for the woman of the house who is always 24-7 on duty?

Coming home to expect a wife who is already a ready mother and lover need 2 hands to clap, and i admit i am the man who has been tapping on, not clapping with. Its easy to kiss and hug our kids, the real love comes from washing the poo and whispering one sided I love you when I scold you.

 

This is Paul Teo reposting as his weekly blog and if pride is in the way dont ever commit to a long term relationship. The man is forever the leader in any relationship and may you find true happiness.

Fact: a happy wife brings a happy life. Unless you really did your best, else follow the above mentioned.

Every relationship is work in progress and if you want to seek a relationship where you can call it a completed end game when you get her... Good luck keeping it.

 

Else my advice, stay single

 

Lots of love,

Paul Teo

Why do successful people go through multiple failed relationships

A successful man is attractive. Woman fall for men who are attractive and confident. And its the choice of the woman to decide what kind of relationship that she chooses once the man won her heart.

An attractive woman never lack options. But every attractive woman has relationship stories that rewinds in their heart with pain, fear and insecurities


Love is a choice, our relationship status is a choice.

Believing we don't have a choice is also a choice.

Attractive and successful people go through so many failed relationships, failed businesses or took a lifetime to find worthy friends/partner. Everyone know success is a journey, not a destination.

The woman behind every successful man continuously reminds and empowers the man's decision towards his vision.


If only there could be a mobile application that allows all of us to recognize if the next relationship, partnership will be meaningful or meaningless, would you download it? Imagine if you do, where will our learning curves be already knowing the results?

Faith and wisdom is acquired with age, but we will age meaninglessly without learning experience. Relationships are so filled with joy, love and passion, but when they fail, pain, loss and grief is unbearable. 

Both grows us, the love and the pain. However learning the art of attraction does help alot in walking an effective journey of self discovery.


Nobody says we have to walk alone on this journey of success. There are so many role mentors who has found their passion. Since seeking true passion of life is not a brand new path, why not seek to be better prepared?


Rest assured, even with preparation, the joy of love and suffering of pain is never lesser. But definitely much more manageable and easier to recover.


Successful men and women dare to try.

Once bitten, twice shy and still try.

Because they know the next one they are going to meet still deserve 100%, not less just of the previous bad fall. Everyone deserves our 100%, all the time because beauty lies in the eye of beholder who chooses to be authentic.


Nothing beats the pain and grief of losing loved ones, and should we recover from it, what cant we recover from? Recovery is attractive, it's inspiring.

Make a choice to be attractive, because we truly are. 

I know I am, because my kids and wife believes.
Thank you dear wife for believing in me

You are attractive, just because I believe. 

Your faithful attraction coach

Paul Teo

How anyone can attract anyone, again!

Welcome back.

It has been 3 years since I last wrote on this blog. Thoughts came into my mind. Watching men and women letting opportunities slip by in their lives. 

An unexplainable pain that I know I could do something to help, but as we know, the daily work and family stuffs just tied us up. 

No one should ever be left alone. Everyone deserves to feel confident and attractive all the time. To be appreciated, loved and in meaningful relationships. Both men and women. 

Life is even wonderful when we share stories and celebrate victories with our loved ones.

Waiting for the right timing to come back and help out in the attraction community.

Timing is everything.

I am back. To empower both men and women in the art of attraction.

Stayed tuned for updates

Paul Teo

Your faithful attraction coach

Powers of passion attraction academy

Married, father of 2