Every growing men must go through this - But not alone

Demographics have shown that 30% of Singaporean men
remain single after the age of 40
Spending most of their time with aging parents,
​or eating dinner alone in their 600sf home.
I could have been one of them
At first, I was ashamed to share with you my story
Hey, why not because I was just like any of you

Paul Teo growing up

Born Singaporean into a typical Singapore family,
Grew up in a 2 bedroom hdb in Haig road with my extended family of 10

being taught to not talk to strangers
And be careful when speaking to girls

Where I grew up, Haig Road

I used to face the same problem with woman as much as you do

Have you Ever walked past someone that you like and didn't have the courage to talk to her?

I did.
Countless times.

Before I discover the beautiful psychology of attraction
There were numerous opportunities, people, women whom I could have initiated and become
More than friends.

In my earlier years, I would see this attractive beautiful woman from afar
And watch how happy she is with someone else

All dressed up ready to go clubbing

Years back, There was this unforgettable time at a club, I remembered it was at zouk
First time going to a large branded club
Totally excited about going out to meet new people with a few of my poly mates

You guessed what happened the whole night when I was there?
So many beautiful people all around but I just didn't know what to do

So I ended up sitting in a corner with another single guy friend talking about women and guys stuffs instead of
Talking to women!

Yes the whole night.
10pm to 2.45am closing

Watching how other couples and friends happily enjoying themselves and having fun was always my envy

Who does not want to be in a great company of friends and having our girlfriend with us?

Instead of embracing the wonderful spirit of female companionships, good buddiesAll the time I ended up jealous and envy why some guys seems to have better luck with women

I started to hate men who are good with women
I started to detest women who only like fun guys

And this happen for a long time, living in jealousy, anger and of course the unbearable feeling of being left out and lonely

Can you imagine
My buddies around me started to get attached
The women whom I met only treat me as only a friend (yes ALL of them)
Just wanting to be able to put a smile to a woman who I just met (a smile of interest, but not those kinda 'I'm just being polite type')
Having unbearable feeling of how it really feels to just be loved and can love another woman?

Numerous nights I have doubts about myself
For years and years

I ask:
Am I fated to be the last single friend in my community of friends or family?

Yes, I do have a few 'puppy relationships' every now and then
But they were the ones who pitied me and gave me a chance

Should not I have the equal chance like any other men
To be with someone whom I like and she like me as well

I'm Wondering why the people I'm are attracted to are not attracted to me
And just happen to be 'lucky' to be with ones who I didn't really feel for

I tried. Didn't turn out well.

Believe my experience as I openly share this
No men feels good being in a pitied relationship

And it's affecting me a lot.
Im losing my ability to focus and the sense of insecurity creeps in stronger everyday

At one season,
I tried to isolate myself from the world
By playing video games like final fantasy and many time consuming role playing games that will allow me to be a hero in the game

Keep doing the same thing by leveling up

Playing video games takes away my zero in life to become the hero in fantasy
But it didn't took me long to realized everytime I competed a game,

I felt totally lost about what's next

Then I realized,
It will repeat for every new video game
Nothing's Gona change unless I do something about it

Explore Something different

It's not about the girls around me
It's about me

My desire to get a girlfriend who I really like was still there and I refused to believe I'm fated to be single forever

I prayed
I asked
and God sent me the answer after many years again

attracting women becomes so naturally easy

I discovered the key to unlocking
Psychology of attracting women and with this gift

The rest is history. 

So what is your story? 

Whatever your story will be, we want and will be part of your growth

http://www.powersofpassion.com/can-paul-teo-really-train.html

Succeeding with woman together as a community

 

No man is an island.

 

There can be no true individual success as this success only display unwillingness to share and help.

 

A person who is inward is a failure.

 

Individual success, no matter how great, can never be greater than group success.

Individual success compared to group success, is very easy, because you only need to care for yourself.

 

Having individual success is not difficult, almost like a joke. One can have all the successes he strived for up to a point… what’s the difference for another one. Eventually, the feeling of emptiness will creep in again, like what happened to me, at a more terrifying quantity as the success he strived so hard and spent so much time for is not what he wanted.

Anthony Robbins (World renowned life coach): But how do we make sure that we enjoy a life of happiness and satisfaction when a man does not really need much for himself?

 

To answer this question, we have to understand a quality of a human, makes me proud and should make you proud too. ‘Man we will do more for others, than they will ever do for themselves.’

 

Enjoy helping. Easier said than done.

 

Also, having people around who acknowledge you contributions, especially when there are female companions around, shows that you are a social proof person. This is a very big turn-on for women as they know that there is a man whom other men respect, something the individual high-flyer will not have.

 

So many stories of how our friends have contributed to our success. I am really grateful for what Mr S did for me towards the end of the Dec field trip. He is more to me. If he did not help me open up the gorgeous Korean women, if he is not sensitive enough to move back when the women was more interested in me, I wouldn’t have a great time with them and close her email.

 

Although I don’t if I am able to get her in the end, what really matter most is the self-esteem you gave me. Thank you Mr S, you really made a difference.

 

Powers of social proof

 

Your friend matters more than a new girl who you just met.

 

Man to man talk about friendship loyalty (意气). Women to man talk about feel and seldom talk about love (which cannot come before feel). Feel can change (obvious) and I didn’t say loyalty cannot.

 

But at least, loyalty and friendship cannot change overnight as it has been build so dearly by our blood and sweat (perhaps tears lolx), something that is worth spending a lifetime cherishing.

Having said that, to be honest, I really don’t deserve any credit for this article as a person who don’t practice what he preach is a liar.

 

Up till now, I am still not a very good team player. At many times, I will just slip back inwards to the selfish me. Please be patient to guide me back to the spirit of brotherhood. I promise to listen.

Let this spirit always be the one that helps the Brotherhood stay together.

 

I look forward to day where all of us, brothers, sit together at a restaurant beside the evening Hawaiian beach, enjoying the sea breeze with our woman and wine.

 

Thank you Brotherhood.

 

Your sensitive, attractive man,

 

Stewey

 

Graduate, Married